Learning experience

[cyrano]

Apparently I suck at parties. Who'da thunk.

However, lovely women telling me I look good should happen more often.

Comments

[denyse.livejournal.com]

You're probably just a bit of an introvert if you find large groups of people exhausting and don't want to run out and talk to strangers. That doesn't mean you're not interesting, fun, and good looking. Heck, I married a fun, good looking somewhat introverted geek (and I think I can be a bit of one too) - so I am highly approving of the type. And getting overloaded at parties sometimes is part of trope.

I wasn't really sure what self-actualized was, but when I wikipedia'd it, it says (in part) that they are people accepting of themselves and others. That's a rare thing.

[cyranocyrano.livejournal.com]

I'm definitely a bit of an introvert. I'm just an introvert who likes to be around people. (:
I don't have to enjoy it, but I would like to be *able* to talk to strangers, in case it's neccessary. Like at a party, or if I'm lost, or if my future wife is similarly reticent and I need to get her attention so that we can meet.
And being accepting of yourself and others is unfortunately rare, but it's one of the things that makes Gayle such a delight to be around.

[wildpaletz.livejournal.com]

Not to mention, a noticeable percentage of "self-actualized" people are simply creating new layers of self-deception and smugness with which to cope with their own insecurities (you've been to LA, right?). But I'm just a research psychologist, what do I know :)

I think you're spot on about the introversion/extroversion thing, denyse. And your husband is FRIGGIN HILARIOUS. Brilliance, humor, and awesomeness are not necessarily the same as shiny extroversion.

And that gconnor is probably right about--Cyrano was probably perfectly charming, if a little overloaded and thus withdrawn.

Hugs to CyranoCyrano. If you want a cold, sparsely populated room, please feel free to visit us! We're warm on the inside, it's just that we're trying to save energy/$$ and it's been hella cold out.

[xleste.livejournal.com]

While I don't claim any of my guests are actually self-actualized, I would say that I really don't think a lot of them are the ones that create a lot of a layers of self-deception and smugness. I tend not to enjoy being around that much. :)

And knowing the people there relatively well, trust me wholly on this one, we ALL have our faults, insecurities, traumas, pain points - that's probably the biggest /binding/ thing of the people in the room, though likely not the biggest topic of party conversation.

[wildpaletz.livejournal.com]

Yah, not LA!

And hey, cyranocyrano, at least you could go the party!