Love thy neighbor

[cyrano]

I saw this in the 9th Moon's journal and really liked it. So I'm spreading the meme.

Say something nice about each of the last five people you've "broken
up with" - romantic break-ups, friendships, whatever.

You go first. (:

Comments

[mnarra.livejournal.com]

Wow.

Claudia -- She never did anything she thought was wrong
Becky -- She never led me on
Crystal -- uhm.
Laura -- She was upfront and clear when she ditched me for my best friend
Crystal -- Got it; she's over 2,000 miles away.

[cyranocyrano.livejournal.com]

Just so you know, you're the first person I've seen post with names attached. And I thought just getting on the bus was brave.

[mnarra.livejournal.com]

tch. If I was really brave, I'd mail the list to the people involved.

Brave, or suicidal.

[roisnoir.livejournal.com]

I think the answer to most of the last five is "nothing" - I'm bad enough at talking to the people I like and want to spend time with; the ones that I'm done with? Get silence.

Yeah, it's kind of shitty, but I can't feel that bad about it. If it's important enough, they could contact me.

[roisnoir.livejournal.com]

Duuuuur. Misreading for the win!
(what did I say, vs say something nice)

Saying nice things now:

R: Gorgeous eyes, great laugh, good teddybear pillow.
A: A ballgag would have fixed everything.
S: You had a wonderful cat.
E: I love the fantasy of you.
M: I still want to see who you really are under all that academia.

[satyrlovesong.livejournal.com]

M: I still want to see who you really are under all that academia.

I have one of those TOO! Well, not an M, but an academic hard nut to crack.

[roisnoir.livejournal.com]

We were the wrong people for each other (he dreamed of being a professor, and I utterly despised college), but he had excellent taste, a great mind, and walled a significant portion of himself off from the world.

I tried for a year to get him to let loose, but it just wasn't going to happen. :(

[satyrlovesong.livejournal.com]

I posted mine on my lj.

[phillipalden.livejournal.com]

I can say something about the last three:

1. Micheal - is a good guy, but with a lot of self-esteem and anger problems. He's doing much better today, (living down in Florida.)

2. Jeffrey - really loved me and had a lot of common sense. It's sad that his mental illness made it impossible for us to stay together. (He committed suicide a few years after we broke up.)

3. Scott - was also a nice guy, but he was too preoccupied with material things, and he tended to treat people in his life as something to possess.

[irismoonlight.livejournal.com]

In no particular order:

5: Loyal, intelligent, detail-oriented and a technician in the positive sense of the word.

4: Incredibly creative. A craftsman with an eye for detail and beauty.

3: Taught me that spending money to help create memories and experiences, and to celebrate, was actually an investment in a relationship.

2: Could make me believe I was the center of his universe, in a good way.

1: Made some really cool tapes of travel tunes.

Names? Oh hell no. Not even for good stuff.

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Ryan: Was an attentive lover, and extremely patient with my mercuriality.
Thelonius-Brian: Was excellent at the listening/sympathizing thing.
Ian: Is probably still the best lover I've had.
Kristine: Meant well, and stuck by me throughout grade school despite my social ineptitude.
Aurora: Enthusiastic and creative lover (do I sense a pattern here?), and she had amazing breasts. And hair. And skin.

[yukonsally]

Krissy: friend for life material (lacked follow through)
Zach: enthusiastic for his cause
Sean: honest, if he would let himself be
Caleb: enthusiastic for his cause (close to Zach's cause)
Lacey: loves hard

[nutty-irishman.livejournal.com]

What if you broke up with the same gal three times? Does that count for one or three? :D

[nutty-irishman.livejournal.com]

OK, I suppose it does say people and not breakups.

Liz: Fiercely attractive, physically and emotionally and intellectually.
Misha: Terrific, energetic fun in bed (and next to it).
Lori: Kind, cute, funny, and a great cook.
Alicia: Hot.
Bobbi: You were right, I did need to move on.

[nora-torious.livejournal.com]

1 and 5-Terribly hot, kinky, beautiful, and intelligent
2 Sweet, Tall, big, hyperintelligent, good kisser, treated me like I was all that exsistent (even though he was polyamorous)
3 Sardonic, Tall loved my blow jobs, treated me like a Countess
4 Boyish, sweet, Extensive knowledge of gourmet food, wine, and old school punk rock music. Also treated me like a Countess.

[cyranocyrano.livejournal.com]

If #2 is me, I just want to mention that we never technically broke up. (:
And if #3 is me, then curse my faulty memory!

[nora-torious.livejournal.com]

You are right.....

[darth-snarky.livejournal.com]

I might also post this in my LJ.

L: You never called me again, which was perfect, because I never wanted to hear from you again.
D: I was trying to come up with something more ladylike than "good in bed" but I can't. So, you're good in bed. Very good.
A: Good kisser, very tolerant of my drunken idiocy
J: Pretty close to perfect (I mean, you can't get much closer and still be a normal human). You're too nice for your own good.
E: You have gorgeous ginger hair and a silly sense of humor. Also, it's nice to know my extensive knowledge of Firefly/Star Wars/Star Trek/Macs was a turn-on. Did I mention the ginger?

[my-aerie.livejournal.com]

*smiles* I feel kinda happy right now...cuz the last 5 people I can think of breaking up with (all 4 boyfriends and 1 friend--though in fairness, I only did the breaking up with half of the boyfriends, the other half dumped me...but that should make this harder, right?)...I'm on good terms with most of them, and they're good people. SO!!!

Leif (1st boyfriend): He's one of the most intelligent people I've ever met, and yet he never comes off as superior, haughty, mean, etc.

Brad (2nd boyfriend): Truly one of the most compassionate people I know, one of the only males I know whom I've seen cry out of sheer empathy, and one of the only people I know I could count on for a 3am I Need Someone phone call.

Sam (3rd boyfriend): Genuinely wants the world to be a better place, wants his role in this world to improve it, and yet is not so overly hopeful as to be naive or annoying, simply...hopeful.

Lissy (friend who did some nasty shit): Has an awesome habit of making you forget why you're unhappy in the first place (this might be because she smokes such copious amounts of pot that it exudes from her pores and you get a contact high from being in the same city as her), and she never fails to make me laugh. And her mouth looks like skis. >.>

Nick (4th boyfriend): One of the few True Romantics, and no one has ever treated me better than he did, even if his clinginess was too much for me to handle--that was an incompatibility, not a flaw. I hope he finds his Princess someday. He's an awesome Prince Charming.



There, 5 break ups. Does it still count, since I'm still on such great terms with some of them (i.e. Brad and Sam I still count among my best friends)? :P There was a break up and long negativity...

I just don't socialize much, which means I don't break up very often, be it friendships or romances. *shrug*

[cyranocyrano.livejournal.com]

Of course it counts. I'm still on good terms with most of my exes, so this exercise was a lot easier for me than for some. But the point is to think positively about people. The angle means that for many of us it might not be people we're sued to thinking positively about.